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Lubricants: Do Ingredients Matter?

There are so many lubricants on the market now and often I get asked which one is best. The answer is, it depends. It depends on your preferences and goals, and you probably shouldn't be buying supermarket lube anymore.


The first important factor is ingredients. There is a lot more awareness around safe and healthy ingredients now in all products including beauty and feminine care products, lubricants also. Especially lubricants and adult toys because they aren't just going on your skin, but inside your body. If you want to know more about safe adult toys scroll way back in my blogs to one titled "Toxic Toys", or click here.

Some key ingredients that you DO NOT want in your lubricants are parabens, glycerine and propylene glycol. Many lubricants that you may find at a drugstore contain these ingredients. Lubrication is definitely a product worth investing a little extra money in order to not introduce toxic chemicals into your body. Most lubricants that I recommend are not that expensive.

The next thing you want to consider is water based or silicone based lubricant. If you are using lubrication with sex toys or sex tools, such as dilators, that are made of silicone you need to use a water based lubricant. Silicone lubricant on silicone toy/tool will cause breakdown of the toy material.

Condom compatibility is another consideration. Most lubricants are condom compatible, but be sure to read the label.

Fertility is another consideration with lubrication. There is not a ton of research on this, however there are a few lubricants that claim to have been tested and do not interfere with sperm motility and fertility. The brand Good Clean Love has a fertility friendly lube.

If you want to go all natural you can use coconut oil. Other oils are not recommended, but a little coconut oil is safe. I always warn clients that coconut oil will not be absorbed so it will be expelled from the vagina at some point. It is normal to see or feel this expulsion of the oil.

Water based vs Silicone based

In general water based lubricants are somewhat thinner and more runny than silicone based lubes. Silicone lubes tend to be very silky and smooth feeling. One of my personal favorites is Uber Lube and it is silicone based. It feels very smooth and silky to me and not too runny. Some clients have told me they think Uber Lube is too runny, so really a lot of it comes down to personal preference.

One of my favorite water based lubes is Slippery Stuff. This is what I use in the clinic. Hardly anyone has a negative reaction to this lube so it makes it a good option if you have a lot of sensitivities or are prone to yeast infections or UTIs.

Some people really like Sliquid as a water based lube. Personally, this one feels too liquidy and messy for my preference, but other people love the thin feeling of it.

Good Clean Love and Ah Yes, the new American brand of Yes Organics, are also two lubricants that I really like.

If you want something a little creamier and silkier Sex Butter is a great option. This is a favorite for many women after menopause or pelvic cancer treatments.

My website has many of these linked here that you can purchase on Amazon.

My friend and sex educator at Entice Me Soirees also has a ton of options on her website.

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